Life is so different now that I’m facing the real working-life.
I can never compare my working & studying-life. I never want to. They’re both different and both have their own exciting & upsetting parts.
When I was still in college-life, I watched how my friends were struggling due to their new working-life and many of them said to me ‘You’re lucky to be here (in college), working-life is sucks’.
Now that I’m living the working-life that I really wanted to, I finally feel all the struggles they’ve been talking about. To be honest, it is all never been easy for me (and perhaps for everybody else, too). Working overtime even on the weekend, overload jobs, deadlines, strict client, etc, etc.
However, still, the most difficult thing is connecting with people. I learn that communication is the root of everything in this working-life. And that, my friends, ain’t easy to deal with at all. I’m facing new people with different kind of characters, way of thinking, perceptions, ambitions, and even different languages. So many barriers to overcome. I didn’t say they are bad things. Communication among colleagues could brings amazing things, too. I learn that even the slightest smile could even brighten up someone’s mood drastically. It’s just that sometimes I find it really challenging.
I hate to misunderstand people, and either way.
The most exhausting part of this, is to keep all the people not misunderstanding things of me, or what I said, or what I did. Whenever people misunderstand, they got upset because things are not the same as their expectations. I then, end up trying hard to please everyone all the time by meeting all of their expectations. However, apparently that is not a wise thought. Now that I’ve been almost 2 years working, I’m already at the point where I can’t please my own self because pleasing everybody else is already too exhausting for me. In the end, people got upset, too. Because no matter how hard I tried to keep the misunderstandings away, they are somehow unavoidable.
Working-life is indeed very helpful for us, to understand more about the relationships between human being. But sometimes, it could be so stressful. People who couldn’t express their anger and the ones who keep maintaining their kind attitude all the time are the worst kind of people in this cruel human being relationship. They are placed in the very bottom of the office’s food chain. Others take them for granted easily. They play safely, don’t want to hurt anybody, and are afraid to be judged. Eventually, these will lead them to disappointment on their own self whenever they let other people down. Even if it’s actually not their mistakes. I’m judging myself that I belong to those two kind of people. That’s why working-life is so stressful for me.
Because of those things, I realise that something has changed in me. I’m no longer the naive Kiky or the kind-hearted Kiky that I heard a lot during my college-life time. I can’t please everybody. No matter how hard I tried to please everyone, there’s always somebody else that got upset. Slowly, I’m starting to express all of my feelings freely, including anger and disagreement. I’m starting to show people who I really am. I feel a little better because I could relieve the emotion that I kept. Even though sometimes I would feel bad, too.
Of course, I was afraid (in fact, I still do). Because people might don’t accept me as who I am. Connecting with people is all about accepting and tolerance. When you accept their weakness/differences, you will be connected easily to them. it’s just a matter of how long you could tolerate those weakness or differences. However, getting accepted sometimes needs quite a long time for some people with bad communication skill, or having a lot of communication barriers (for example: speaking different language). It’s difficult, but worth a try.
Now that I can express my feeling properly, I’ve become more at ease. I learn that it is actually fine to say ‘No’ to people, they won’t suddenly un-friend me just because I said that. The most important thing is, it is okay to be judged. I learn to accept that no matter what people judge me, it is what I actually feel inside that matters the most. They can judge me as they like, but I shall never feel that I’m a disappointment. I shall never let my self down just because people think that I’m a failure. I should be the one who has the control of what I’ll become in the future. Failure is one thing, but I got a lifetime to learn and be a better version of my self.
Working-life lets my self changed, a better change. It is indeed the time and place to learn how to understand the communication between human being. It’s also the time and place for me to learn that it is never too late to be myself. I feel relieved that I have transformed my self to be someone that I want, to be more human.
To those people who are struggling the same kind of problems like mine, it’s never too late to change. Have courage on yourself because everybody deserves the same chances to live their life fully.
‘My dream came true!!!‘.
That’s the first thing I’m going to post on my social media account if I ever landed at Incheon International Airport, South Korea. Lol.
I remember the first time I began to like korean drama, Full House (2004). The story was too sweet! I fell in love right away with the love-hate relationship of Han Jieun & Lee Youngjae. I was in junior high school at that time. Years after that, I began to watch more Korean dramas like My Sassy Girl, Goong, etc. I was still normal back then, lol.
On 2010, I began to like Girls Generation (SNSD) because of their beauty, lovely songs, and perfect sync in dancing! That’s the first time I was ever exposed to K-Pop. At that time, my friends kept telling me to watch recent popular variety show, Running Man, because SNSD’s member appeared on the show. So I watched it. Then, bam! I was crazy about the show. It was hilarious, fun, thrilling, and showed a lot of fun places around Seoul & South Korea. That was the first moment I told my self, ‘I’m going to visit South Korea one day! I’ll make sure to visit those places in Running Man show! I have to!‘
Time flies and I got deeper and deeper in my passion for South Korea. I began to like Bigbang, watch more variety shows, watch more Korean dramas & movies, learned Hangul on my own from the internet, and even took 6 months course of basic Korean language. I began to understand few Korean conversations from dramas & variety show. I was so drowned in their culture. I’m in love with it.
Everyday I thought that going to South Korea would be impossible unless I could get a free tour or training from my company (like the one I got to Fujisawa) or continue my study there using scholarship money. I would need at least 10 millions rupiah to have a vacation there. I just joined my company for 9 months, my salary wasn’t enough to cover the trip South Korea, saving money for my wedding day was a pain to my bank account already, I just thought that going to South Korea is only possible one day, when I’m old enough to earn much money, when I’m married and have children. However, I kept telling my self that one day I would go there for sure.
Until one day, my friends, Adzani & Deri asked me to have a vacation together to South Korea. I thought ‘It’s impossible, Ky. You got no money.’ But I couldn’t resist the thought that it’s now or never! I may get married soon and when that happens, it would cost double to visit South Korea or even triple cause I have to bring the family all along. I finally found my self some courage to say ‘Yeah, let’s do it!‘
Long story short, we bought ourself tickets already! We got lucky cause we got around IDR 5800k for round trip ticket to Incheon International Airport due to the promotion fare (thanks to Deri Ardia! normally it could be around IDR 7000k to 12000k). It was only five months before the departure date. We were so thrilled.
Life after that was a bit (too) tough for me cause I had to save more and more money. I even had to save ALL the THR (holiday bonus) money I got from the company. Actually it was a good thing for me cause saving money has always been difficult before. But for this trip, I had to make it happen! I bought the ticket already and it’s going to be waste of money if I give up on saving money now. I kept telling my self, ‘if you want to do it, then you’re gonna have to do it right. Keep struggling but remember that you’re gonna have some fun soon!’ I struggled so much, but everyday I read a lot about other people’s South Korea trip on blogs and it gave me strength! So yeah, it happened. Five months saving money with those below average salary and big determination, I finally got enough to have 6 days trip to South Korea including visa application.
I’ll never forget the day I landed at Incheon International Airport for the first time. It was the first country I’ve ever visit for a vacation purpose only. Moreover, with my own money.
I’ve been to some Asian countries before but never for a vacation purpose. Never with my own money. Frankly, I was too burdened to ask my parents to fund me to go abroad without a necessary purpose. Either I have to join a cultural program, conference program, or training purpose. At least I have to make them feel that I went abroad to learn something, to give me more value-added experiences. I applied a lot of times to those kind of programs, wrote long essays, got rejected a lot and luckily accepted several times. So having a vacation abroad is really something big for me and I’m really glad that I worked hard to make it happen.
I was able to visit South Korea, the country I’ve been longing to visit so much. The country that I thought I could only visit one day. I’m beyond happy. Finally that one day has already happened in September 2015.
I visited a lot of places I could only seen on the drama & variety show before. I made memories with my best friends. I went to see Bigbang’s YG entertainment head office, took pictures, learned about Korean’s history & culture, ate street foods, even spoke korean language with locals! I smiled a lot. I had so much fun. It was beyond of my expectation. Of course I got to thank Adzani, Deri & Nana because it was all possible because of them, too!
The National Museum of Korea
Ehwa Womans University
Seoul Namsan Tower
Bukchon Hanok Village
I got to admit that I was really moved of my self cause I’ve never been so strict on my own money. (Ha.) I become more responsible and more aware of my daily outcome. I also learned that if you have a strong commitment to your goal, you’re going to work hard, really hard, automatically, to make sure you’re gonna reach that goal. Even the impossible one. You just need to think that if you work hard, then you’re getting closer each day. Good thing, right?
The Red Ginseng country doesn’t only make me passionate about one country’s culture, but also taught me a lot of lessons in life. I mean it. People may laugh at me or the others whose are really passionate about this country, because it may seems so silly and so cheesy to them. But I’m really glad that I did it. For once in my life, I finally believe that the impossible thing may turns to be possible only if we work hard to make it happen.
And you, my friend, should know that the impossible thing is closer than you think. Take a lesson of my story and the Red Ginseng Country. Who knows? You might be able to change your life once you believe it. So yeah, be silly and dream high!
Been two years already since my last post. Glad to be back.
I’m employed and 24 already!!!
I finally understand how it feels to really love someone.
Happiness is not about how much he makes you laugh, but about how he laughs because a little joke you make.
And sadness is not about how much he makes you cry, but about how he cries because of the heart you break.
Hello, my dear fellow readers!
Hmm, I know I owe you guys story about my journey in AISEF and I’m really sorry for writing it just now. I got a lot of assignments that I left because of the trip, so I need to finish them first :<
So, here I am. Well, how should I begin? I think it’s going to be very long. So you might have to be patient in reading it, lol.
It was on February 2012, when I first knew about the AYFN (ASEAN Youth Friendship Network; you can find all the information about it here, all about the programs and how to join them). I knew about the program from my friend who also joined NTUMUN 2012. I was really excited about it and planning to apply for the program soon. I’ve been exactly looking for this kind of program; cultural exchange! I’ve been always wanted to know how it feels to learn others cultures, I want to get socialized with them, I also want to tell them about Indonesian cultures, and also travelling to places I’ve never been before. Well, the program has all of them!
Unfortunately, I don’t have the chance to apply, yet. Well….because of these and those. So I waited for chance to come and finally on March 2013, I decided to apply a program that called AISEF (Art Immersion and Student Exchange Fieldtrip).
AYFN has several programs that held in many different cities around the ASEAN countries (you can check it on their website). My program was held in Chiang Mai, Thailand, a living city that unexpectedly more beautiful than Bangkok in some ways. Other programs held in Bangkok, Phuket, Ho Chi Minh city, Hanoi, Manila, and others. They usually set up an association with local university, so the lessons are being taught by real teachers and professionals. We also got buddies from the local university to accompany us everywhere during the program and the break time. I think this one is the best part because you can directly share your thoughts about each cultures you have, plus you got new foreigner friends!
To apply for the program, I need to fill up a form and have to write some essays about myself, my motivation to join the program, my strengths & weakness, and others. Well, for some other programs, you need to make a video that show about your talents (it could be dancing or singing a traditional song). Luckily, I don’t have to make that video because my program didn’t have any schedule for any performances :p It was still great though, because we got the chance to celebrate Songkran Festival in Chiang Mai (Water Festival; Thai’s New Year Celebration).
After waiting for a week, I got an email that told me I was accepted! I just woke up from my sleep at that time, so I was still wondering whether it was real or not. Several minutes after that I realized it was real and told my mom about it. She allowed me to go, and I was sooooooo happy! It was my dream to join this kind of program. So I feel like finally can make one of my dreams come true.
Days after that, I met other participants online (well, thank God there’s Facebook! and again, thank you for the AYFN’s committee for making us the group). We exchanged phone numbers and started to plan on reserving our airplane tickets, some of us also decided to extend our trip and visit Bangkok before we go home (FYI, you need to buy your airplane tickets by yourself for this program. But don’t worry, AYFN’s committees are very nice and helpful. They always guide us everywhere and even help us to reserve rooms for our extended days).
Actually, there is no direct flight from Indonesia to Chiang Mai. Either we have to fly to Bangkok first, or we can also have a quick trip in Kuala Lumpur. So the routes available are Jakarta/Bandung/Yogyakarta-KL-Chiang Mai or Jakarta/Bandung/Yogyakarta-Bangkok-Chiang Mai.
Me and some of Jakarta’s participants decided to took the first route, considering the price is also cheaper on the date we picked (you can always find promotion fares!). And then we decided to meet other participants from Bandung (I departed from Jakarta because it’s easier for me; my home is in Bekasi, remember? :p), Yogyakarta, Purwokerto, and Solo in Kuala Lumpur to take the airplane to Chiang Mai together. One of AYFN’s committee, Mas Aan, also join us in Kuala Lumpur, so we thought it would be safe.
Me, Diana, Yessica, and Warsi (participants from UNPAR and UI) decided to have a trip together in Bangkok. So we also planned our place to stay there, the itineraries, and our airplane tickets to home. Aaaaand after excitedly planned our journey, we waited for the day to come with full of expectations!
On the day we have to go, it was a little awkward for me because we finally get to see each other after talking only via whatsapp and facebook. It felt like a blind date, lol. I took a plane with only Yessica and Warsi from CGK to KLIA using Lion Air. Yessica and Warsi are basically friends from the same department in their university. So it was a little hard for me, right? lol. But of course I get along with them fine, Yessica and Warsi were really nice to me. It turned out that Yessica was also ITB’s student before she decided to go to UI after a year. Now she’s in her last year major in Electrical Engineering. So we had a lot of to talk about. Warsi is also a very funny person, somehow I miss her little jokes that can make the atmosphere around us warm. She made me comfortable being around her. So when I finally get to meet them, I feel no awkward after talking for only several minutes :>
It was our first time to visit Kuala Lumpur. So I was a bit nervous. Fortunately, in KLIA, Reza was already waiting for us to join the KL trip. Reza is a participant from UIN, and surprisingly he also lives in Bekasi. Ha! It seems like my city a bit popular now, lol. It’s a relief to have Reza in our trip in KL because he’s the only male with us. Reza already arrived in KLIA the night before us. He stayed in KLIA all night. Thank God, KLIA is a really great International Airport. I was lucky to took Lion Air instead of Air Asia, because I can get to see KLIA (Air Asia operates in LCCT Airport, near KLIA).
After meeting Reza, we started our trip by riding a bus to LCCT airport, if I’m not mistaken, the bus service costed around 2.5 MYR and it took about 20 minutes. We went to LCCT because we’d like to deposit our luggages first because it will be hard for us if we have to bring them all along in our short trip, plus we were gonna take the plane to CNX from LCCT anyway. There’s a service named ‘Your Baggage Solution‘ in LCCT so you can keep your belongings there while you’re travelling around KL (you can find it near to International Departure’s gate). It costed around 28 MYR for 24hours and medium size of luggage. You can also find it in KLIA if you want to continue travel from there. You can find more about the service here.
After having a quick lunch, carefully studying about KL MRT lines, and planning on places we were gonna visit, we took a bus from LCCT Airport to KL Sentral. The bus costed 8 MYR and took about 45 minutes. KL Sentral is an MRT Station that connected to several MRT lines in KL. So it is easier for you to choose which line are you gonna take from there (well, depends on your destination first, of course). There’s also luggage deposit service there. I don’t know exactly how much it costs, but I heard it is cheaper than KLIA & LCCT. But I prefer to deposit my belongings in LCCT considering I was going to sleep at LCCT. I think it is more safe and simpler. If you’re going to plan on travelling in KL, you can choose which one is simpler for your trip.
On my way to KL Sentral, I just realized that KL’s transportation system is quite modern. The main road seems like a highway road, almost similar to Singapore (but I like Singapore better). I think the city is also well-arranged. I wonder when will Indonesia, especially Jakarta, will has something like that. I hope for it soon. I also wonder, why would many Indonesian people say something bad about Malaysia. It is a well-developed country and I respect them for that. At least we can learn many things from them, considering we still got lacked here and there. Well, just an opinion.
The first place we visited in KL was Pasar Seni and Petaling Street using Malaysian’s MRT for the first time (KL Sentral-Pasar Seni costs around 1 MYR). Petaling Street is a street that has transformed into traditional market that sell many kinds of souvenir and other things like women bags, foods, clothes, and others. Pasar Seni is more like KL souvenirs centre, but more like crafts and things like that. I didn’t buy any souvenir there, because it’s quite the same like Indonesian’s souvenirs. But Yessica, Warsi, and Reza bought KL T-shirt there.
After that, we went to KLCC using MRT again (1.6 MYR). KLCC is like a mall district. There’re also the famous Petronas Tower there. In KLCC, we met with Diana and Yanda, participants from UNPAR. We also managed to meet Mas Aan and other participants there; Irfan, Ihwan, Asma, Acca, Myta, Anti, Alfi, and Fifi. We stay at KLCC until night and took photo in front of Petronas Tower. KLCC also has a beautiful park with dancing fountain in it! It was beautiful at night because there are colorful lights everywhere!
Before we back to LCCT Airport, Me, Diana, Yessica, Warsi, and Reza went to Bukit Bintang first, again using MRT (4 MYR). The rest of the group were heading to Pasar Seni. We didn’t much time at Bukit Bintang, because we need to catch the last bus to LCCT Airport from KL Sentral which depart on 11.30 p.m. So in Bukit Bintang, we had only 30 minutes and spent the time only for walking around and took pictures. Bukit Bintang is also a shopping district. It’s like Singapore’s Orchard Street.
After a quick photo session (lol), we rushed back to KL Sentral (using MRT, 2.1 MYR) and fortunately caught the bus! We went back to LCCT safely and quickly find something to eat. There’re many kind of halal foods there, but I just don’t know why, I didn’t feel like eating Malaysian food because the seasoning is a bit different. I don’t know, the taste just didn’t meet my tongue. So, I tried to buy Padangnese food there. Yea I know, surprisingly they had it. But then again, it didn’t match the real taste. But that’s fine. Well, compared with Thai food, I think Malaysian food is a bit pricy. I think maybe because I bought in the airport. The food price there is around 7 to 15 MYR, quite pricy for strict-budget-traveller like me.
After the late dinner, we met again with Mas Aan and the other participants. Some of us decided to sleep until the check in time around 4 a.m, and some of us took a stroll around LCCT. I didn’t sleep, because I can’t (even though I was sooooo exhausted after walking around KL in a day). I was too nervous to go to Chiang Mai. Maybe I was so full of expectations and yet I didn’t know whether it would turn out to be good or not. My plane took off around 7 a.m. We were all so tired and fell asleep in the flight. And finally, we reached Chiang Mai safely around 9 a.m.
My trip in Kuala Lumpur was rather too fast and I think I want to go back there again. There’re still lots of places I want to visit in KL. If you’re going to travel there, I heard that you should visit Putrajaya. If you’re interested in unique and modern architecture, this place needs to be your destination then. Well, I think one day if I happened to come back, I will surely visit Putrajaya and KL Tower. Hoping to go back soon!
Well, I think that’s all the story for Part 1 only, lol. Long enough, right? Don’t get bored quickly because I still have several more parts of my AISEF’s story. In the mean time, I will take some time for me to study because next week is the final exam’s week. After that, I’ll tell you more! Hihi.
Hai! Apa kabar? Hopefully all of you are happy in the moment 🙂
Saya juga sedang sangat happy! Kenapa? Karena saya baru saja mendapatkan satu lagi pengalaman hidup yang nggak akan pernah tergantikan! Saya baru saja menyelesaikan program pertukaran budaya yang diadakan oleh AYFN (ASEAN Youth Friendship Network) di Chiang Mai University, Thailand.
Program ini berbeda dengan beberapa program pertukaran budaya lainnya. Program ini sifatnya santai dan nggak terlalu formal, tapi tetap rapih dan terjadwal dengan baik! Selama satu minggu, kami belajar untuk memahami budaya Thailand, khususnya kota Chiang Mai. Kami belajar bahasa Thailand level basic, menarikan tarian Lanna khas Chiang Mai, memasak makanan Thailand, Thailand’s tourism, dan lain-lain. Batch kami, April 2013, agak berbeda dengan batch sebelumnya, karena kami kebagian Songkran Festival! Wiiih, apa tuh Songkran Festival? Siapa yang sudah pernah nonton Bangkok Traffic Love Story? Kalau udah pernah, coba diingat-ingat adegan cewek pemeran utama main tembak-tembakan air di jalanan bareng warga. Nah, iya! Songkran Festival ini adalah festival air yang dirayakan oleh warga Thailand untuk menyambut tahun baru mereka. Festival airnya lebih mirip dengan perang watergun di tengah kota! hihi.
Kami, para peserta, juga dapat beberapa Thai buddies yang selalu mendampingi kami selama di kota Chiang Mai. Walau hanya seminggu, kedekatan para peserta dengan para buddies sudah begitu eratnya. Kami semua sampai nggak bisa menahan tangis waktu akhirnya pisah sama mereka untuk pulang ke Indonesia.
Buat kamu yang belum tau tentang program ini, apalagi anak ITB (soalnya saya anak ITB yang pertama kali ikutan acara ini), ayo silahkan dicari informasinya di http://ayfnhq.org. Di sana kamu bisa tau program apa aja yang lagi diadakan, karena biasanya setiap bulan selalu ada program pertukaran budaya yang menarik di negara-negara ASEAN seperti Thailand, Vietnam, Filipina, dan Malaysia. Rencananya program ini juga bakal expand wilayah lagi sampai ke Kamboja dan Myanmar! hihi seru kan? Buat yang punya twitter, bisa follow @ayfnhq supaya update!
Saya akan banyak berbagi mengenai pengalaman saya selama mengikuti program ini, mulai dari singgah ke Negeri Jiran, program di Chiang Mai, hingga backpacking ke Bangkok. Bertahap mungkin, soalnya kepanjangan kalau semuanya saya tulis dalam satu post. Harap bersabar ya 🙂
Sementara itu, silahkan dinikmati teaser foto-foto saya selama di sana! 😀
all photos taken by me, copyright 2013.
Semalam saya dan beberapa teman mafia (mantan fungsionaris) 12/13 main ke kontrakan Isro. Tanggal 19 Maret lalu, Isro ulang tahun. Saya dan mafia cewek lainnya minta dimasakin sama Isro (bukannya ngasih kado, malah minta, lol.) soalnya Isro lumayan jago masak, tipe suami idaman deh pokoknya. Selama masa jadi pengurus LFM ITB, kami berlima (saya, Adzani, Shesa, Teh Nunu, dan Tifa) selalu menganggap Isro sudah kayak pacar milik bersama :p Kalo mau minta temenin makan, sama Isro. Mau pergi beli sesuatu, minta temenin Isro. Mau curhat, sms Isro. Pokoknya Isro. Makanya, pas dia ulang tahun kita (rencananya) mau sok sok candle light dinner ber-6 tapi dimasakin sm Isro, lol.
Awalnya sih cuma pengen ber-6, tapi nggak enak juga kalo pergi nggak bareng mafia lain, jadilah kita ajak-ajakin juga lelaki-lelaki nya. Tapi sayangnya yang bisa ikut cuma Nanda & Praja.
Sebenarnya, saat ini sudah dua minggu sejak kami ber-13 turun dari kepengurusan. Kalo boleh cerita, dua minggu ini kami banyak yang ngeluh ‘Duh, nggak ada kerjaan nih‘. Lumayan kebingungan juga setelah satu tahun mengurus LFM ITB, sekarang setelah turun jadi bingung mau ngapain. Rutinitas kami banyak yang hilang sih. Kangen juga kumpul ber-13. Biasanya tiap Selasa malam kami rutin rapat, jadi setiap minggu, bahkan hampir setiap hari pasti kami ketemu, walau nggak lengkap.
Makan-makan sederhana di kontrakan Isro lumayan ngobatin kangen 🙂 Kami ngobrol dan banyak banget cerita tentang kehidupan kami dua minggu ini, lol. Enaknya, sekarang kalo kami kumpul, nggak banyak bahas kerjaan. Ada sih, sedikit tapi. Beberapa jam di kontrakan Isro kebanyakan kami habiskan dengan nostalgia nonton video-video yang dibuat di jaman kepengurusan kami. (Nih buat yang mau liat, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1L5jgVU-F0 | http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Th4m296eFkc | http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=415769061769732&set=t.534143991&type=3&theater). Isinya full ketawa! Kami juga nontonin video-video yang lagi hip di kalangan anak muda, kayak video nya Goldie Emeralda dkk, lol. Kami ini rasanya tua sekali nonton video-video cem itu :p
Setelah puas ketawa dan beres-beres, kami pun pulang dan nggak lupa bilang terima kasih ke Isro. Makasih ya, Isro! pasta nya enak! Selamat ulang tahun lagi, Sro! Semoga TA nya lancar dan bisa lulus Juli ini, Amin. Kapan-kapan lagi yuk! hehe.
“When the wind was fresh
On the hills
And the stars were new in the sky
And the lark was held in the still
Where was I
Where was I..”